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Seeing with New Eyes: How Understanding Changes Parenting

Parenting isn’t about being perfect. It’s about growing—with your child, and for your child.

Learning to see things differently.
Not just your child’s behavior, but also your own.

Because when you change your perspective, everything begins to shift—for the better.

💭 What Is Perspective (And Why It Matters in Parenting)?

Perspective is how you see things.
It’s shaped by how you were raised, what you believe, and even how tired or stressed you are.

For example:

• If your child talks back, one perspective says, “They’re being rude.”

• Another says, “They’re frustrated and don’t know how to handle big feelings.”

Which one will help you respond with calm, instead of reacting with anger?

Perspective helps you understand that behavior is communication, for both kids and adults.

👶 Why Kids Act Out (and What They’re Really Saying)

Children often show their emotions through actions, not words.
They aren’t trying to make your day harder—they’re still learning how to deal with their world.

Some examples:

• Tantrums may mean: “I’m overwhelmed.”

• Whining might mean: “I feel powerless.”

• Avoiding homework could mean: “I’m afraid of getting it wrong.”

When you shift your focus from "what they did" to "why they did it," you become a more thoughtful, connected parent.

🔁 What About Parents’ Bad Habits?

We all have them:

• Yelling when stressed.

• Shutting down during conflict.

• Saying things we regret, then feeling guilty.

Most of these habits didn’t come out of nowhere. They’re learned patterns—maybe from how you were raised, past hurts, or moments when you didn’t feel heard or supported.

Here’s the good news:
If those habits were learned, they can be unlearned.
And it starts with understanding them—not judging yourself.

🧠 How to Understand and Change Bad Habits (Yours & Your Child’s)

1. Be Curious, Not Critical

Instead of saying, “I always yell, I’m a bad parent,” ask:

“Why do I yell? When does it usually happen? What am I really feeling?”

And with your child, ask:

“What’s behind this behavior? Are they tired, anxious, overwhelmed, or just learning?”

2. Look at Patterns

For you: Do certain behaviors (like yelling or giving in) show up when you’re tired, rushed, or not feeling in control?

For your child: Do their habits (like lying, hitting, or zoning out) happen in specific situations?

3. Connect Before You Correct

Before trying to change the habit—yours or your child’s—take a moment to connect. Understanding makes change easier.

For example: Instead of “You’re always on your phone,” say:
“I’ve noticed we’re both on screens a lot—do you want to find a way we can change that together?”

4. Practice, Not Perfection

New habits take time. You’ll slip up. Your child will, too. But if you keep showing up with patience and perspective, things will slowly improve.

A calm pause instead of a yell is a win.
A deep breath instead of a snap is progress.
An honest talk after a mistake is growth.

❤️ The Power of Perspective in Parenting

When you change how you see your child, you:

• Stop reacting, and start responding.

• Replace blame with curiosity.

• Build trust instead of tension.

When you change how you see yourself, you:

• Understand your triggers.

• Let go of guilt and lean into growth.

• Break cycles instead of repeating them.

And when you help your child understand their own habits, you teach them skills they’ll carry into adulthood.

✅ Quick Reminders for Parents

• Your child isn’t trying to be “bad.” They’re trying to cope, communicate, or grow.

• You’re not a bad parent if you make mistakes. You’re human—and healing.

• Every time you pause, reflect, or try again, you’re modeling something powerful: self-awareness.

🏁 Final Thoughts

You don’t need to be the perfect parent.
You just need to be a present one.
A thoughtful one. A growing one.

Change starts with understanding.
Understanding builds connection.
And connection is what your child needs most.

So next time a bad habit—yours or your child’s—shows up, ask this:

“What’s really going on here?”

That one question might not change the world.
But it might just change your home.